Hello all you married lovers out there. Here's a fun stuck at home BYHSC date idea:
Write 25 things that you are thankful for about your spouse, and then share it with each other.
Also, the holidays are a great time for dates when you have small
children. It gives you a chance to get out and go somewhere and get back
into boyfriend/girlfriend mode. Having lots of family around means
"FREE BABYSITTING". Take advantage of it! Let them know as family you can return the favor to newer generations of newlyweds in the family.
Add this wonderful tradition to your wider family traditions.
What better gift to give this holiday season than the gift of an eternally lasting relationship.
Happy Dating
This one is one of my favorites for helping me reignite the original flame. When your marriage settles into a comfort zone and the passion starts to flicker try this:
Re-live the past:
One of the techniques therapists use to bring a couple back together is
help them remember why they got married in the first place. Why wait
for a therapist? You can remind yourself regularly and watch it bring
that spark back into your relationship
Make a nice meal, or get some take out
Break out the wedding photos and look through them together
When was the last time you looked through your school yearbooks
together? Take advantage of the fun of sharing the good times and bad
times of those periods in your lives and remembering what brought you
two together in the first place.
Happy Dating!
YEA! It's Continue-The-Courtship Night!
Tonight it's his turn:
It's not totally free, but doesn't have to be terribly expensive either. Shop for and try out a new sex toy together.
I've not found anything in gospel doctrine or the scriptures that prohibit the use of any apparatus or device in marital sexually intimate activities. In fact, just the opposite. I believe all creations and inventions are inspired by our Father in Heaven and are for the intent to do good.
It is the Adversary who inspires their use for evil. Sex toys are an excellent example. There are many couples who (due to physical disabilities or limitations) struggle to have sexually intimate relations with their spouse, or are incapable of reaching the full sexually bonding experience without the aid of a sex toy.
We keep the use of these tools sacred by using them in the bonds of marriage to bring a couple closer together and strengthen their eternal relationship.
It would be a good idea to discuss first how you both feel about using
it and any concerns. Practice being open-minded and respectful of each
other's feelings. The gadget can be for you or him or both.
Discuss how you would go about getting what you want. I recommend going
online as opposed to going to a store. If you do go online, look for a
vendor that is tastefully done, (ie. no nudity, profane language, etc...),
tastefully displayed, and won't send you flyers in the mail.
Doing a Google search
for “Christian Sex Toys” will help you find several vendors that have a wide
selection but exclude any nudity or
sexually profane images and will often give a description of what the product
was designed for.
If this brings up
concerns you can't resolve together, a qualified LDS sex therapist is always
ready to help or drop me a line @ samzaragoza@sbcglobal.net.
Happy Dating!
