Please understand that I am a little more than biased when it comes to my readers. I think they are just so awesome!
Inspite of prejudice or online "anti-Mormon" gossip, many (if not most) married members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints have a very healthy and positive attitudes toward sex and their own self-esteem as sexual beings. The difference between us and secular permissiveness?
To us sex is sacred, but sacred doesn't mean we can't talk about it or engage in it ever or have to repress our feelings about it.
On the contrary. In marriage - in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we celebrate our sexuality. We embrace it. We talk about it with reverence. We also teach our kids about it so that we eliminate shame, embarrassment, regret, guilt, resentment, hurt, and or fear and we believe it is because we teach we are to reserve its use for marriage. So instead, it gives us fulness joy, not only in this life, but in the life to come.
Listen to this fantastic statement from one of my readers:
"All our kids are teens and above now. We don't try to hide it or let
them control our intimate life. We have a 'Do not Disturb' sign we hang
on our bedroom doorknob and they know when it is there that they can
either go further way, use headphones or put up with whatever they hear.
Yes, they sometimes make a fuss about it being gross to know their
parents are doing it, but that opens up a teaching moment to make sure
they know that sex is a wonderful, normal, important part of marriage"
~ Anon
It's with examples like these I can't help but reflect on our early pioneering ancestors in the church. They lived in one room cabins with multiple children. They raised animals that were encourged to breed. The children were trained how to breed them so they had an increase, had food and prospered.
Sex was not a stranger to them - it was a part of life and it's sacred purpose was understood. Simultaneously, I do not hear tales of those children being traumatized by their parents being sexually intimate. Although, I do imagine those parents tried to be as discreet as possible. Perhaps in our estrangement from animal husbandry and dependence on a processed and pre-packaged lifestyles we've lost something crucial?
