Tonight it's his turn:
It's not totally free, but doesn't have to be terribly expensive either. Shop for and try out a new sex toy together.
I've not found anything in gospel doctrine or the scriptures that prohibit the use of any apparatus or device in marital sexually intimate activities. In fact, just the opposite. I believe all creations and inventions are inspired by our Father in Heaven and are for the intent to do good.
It is the Adversary who inspires their use for evil. Sex toys are an excellent example. There are many couples who (due to physical disabilities or limitations) struggle to have sexually intimate relations with their spouse, or are incapable of reaching the full sexually bonding experience without the aid of a sex toy.
We keep the use of these tools sacred by using them in the bonds of marriage to bring a couple closer together and strengthen their eternal relationship.
It would be a good idea to discuss first how you both feel about using it and any concerns. Practice being open-minded and respectful of each other's feelings. The gadget can be for you or him or both.
Discuss how you would go about getting what you want. I recommend going online as opposed to going to a store. If you do go online, look for a vendor that is tastefully done, (ie. no nudity, profane language, etc...), tastefully displayed, and won't send you flyers in the mail.
Doing a Google search for “Christian Sex Toys” will help you find several vendors that have a wide selection but exclude any nudity or sexually profane images and will often give a description of what the product was designed for.
If this brings up concerns you can't resolve together, a qualified LDS sex therapist is always ready to help or drop me a line @ samzaragoza@sbcglobal.net.
Happy Dating!
