Getting into the habit of date night is extremely important
to the health and happiness of your eternal marriage. Many of us procrastinate
this. So (with the help of my old Interdisciplinary
Studies text book [2019,48], I’ve organized this simple test you can take
together.
Find Your Date Night Procrastination Quotient
1.
I invent reasons and look for excuses for not having
date night with my spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
2.
It takes pressure to get me to go on a date or
schedule a date with my spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
3.
I take half measures to avoid or delay unpleasant
or difficult interactions with my spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
4.
I face too many interruptions and crises that
interfere with scheduling or going on a date with my spouse.
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
5.
I sometimes neglect going on scheduled dates
with my spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
6.
I schedule date night too late to make them as
enjoyable as well as I could
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
7.
I’m sometimes too tired to go on a date with my
spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
8.
I start a new task instead of going on a date
with my spouse
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
9.
When it comes to scheduling dates, I usually put
it on my spouse to plan it
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
0.
I put of going on dates with my spouse where the
activity really doesn’t interest me, but I know I should do.
Strongly agree 4 3
2 1 Strongly Disagree
Scoring: Total the numbers you have circled.
If the score is below 15, you are not a chronic procrastinator and you probably
have only and occasional problem. If your score is 16-25, you have a minor
problem with procrastination. If your score is above 25, you procrastinate date
night quite often and your marriage would benefit from you breaking the habit.
Now, consider the following:
·
If you do procrastinate date night often, why do
you think you do it?
·
Are there particular types of date activities
you are more likely to procrastinate on?
·
Are you putting off a date night right now? How
might you get started?
Source: Adapted from J.D. Ferner,
Successful Time Management(New York: Wiley, 1980), p33
