Is your marriage a prison sentence, or an eternity of blissful and joyful opportunities? It's all in how you look at it, isn't it?
Tonight, do your favorite thing to do together. It doesn't matter what it is...just do it.
"Incompatibility is never the real reason for a divorce. It's a reason for breakup of a dating relationship...The real reason is likely to be that neither attended to the relationship. Perhaps one or both threw themselves into parenting, or a job. They stopped doing the things that they did when dating and that couples need to do to thrive as parents - take time for conversation, talk about how their day went or what's on their mind. Or perhaps the real love was undermined by the inability to handle conflict.
If you get to the point where you're delivering an ultimatum, you haven't been maintaining your relationship properly. It's like your car stopping on the side of the road and you say, 'It just isn't working anymore' - but you haven't changed the oil in 10 years.
What makes people the right mates for each other - is the willingness of both partners to be open and vulnerable; to listen and care about each other."
~ Doherty, Bradbury, Webber, "Are You With The Right Mate", Psychology Today, Feb 2012 pg 63
