It's a good one to get you both talking, touching, and connecting. For you brethren, there is no more powerful aphrodisiac for your wife than conversation.
New years isn't just a time for resolutions, it's a time to review the goals you've set in the past.
It doesn't do any good to have a "vision board" if you never look at it.
This date night, put on a movie with some snacks for the kids (if they're small) and set up the baby monitor, then retreat to the bedroom. If you have reliable relatives visiting or can take them to grandma's, consider that option as well, but do your best to have 4 hours alone.
If you've made a 5 or 10 year goals list for your marriage, now is a good time to review and re-evaluate how you think you are doing to reach those goals. If you haven't made any goals, set some together. Make the goal attainable. If the previous goals turn out to be a little unrealistic after reviewing them again, it's ok to let them go or whittle them down to be more attainable.
Some ideas to consider:
* Regular "Continue-The-Courtship" nights
* Better employment
*Education goals
*Retirement goals
*Death and burial wishes
*Fitness goals or diet changes that will require the participation of your spouse
* Perhaps moving to a better location
* Temple attendance
*Scripture study (personal and family)
*Holiday traditions to add/remove in the future
*Anger management
*Ways to improve communication
*Experimenting with something new sexually that the other spouse wants to try
*Learning a new sexual technique
* Having your first orgasm, learning how to help your spouse have an orgasm or how to make their sexual experience more pleasant if that is a challenge.
*Planning regular hotel trips
* Planning that cruise or European vacation in the next 5 years you've always wanted.
Really, anything you want, but that is the fun of this conversion is that there is no limit or restrictions on your wish list.
Then talk about what steps need to be taken to get there. You may have the makings of the next several dates to finish this list, but try to keep them attainable.
Most important, agree that no matter what the other person suggests, they will be free to express their idea without reproach or shaming - no matter how weird or gross it may sound to you. It may be extremely important to the other. However, also agree to hear out the other's concerns.
Intimacy is not possible without conflict. Treat the conflict like a soccer ball. Kick it around between the two of you. And when you work out the conflict together, it strengthens your trust and intimacy. You BOTH win.
Happy New Year!
