WARNING: This post contains a
topic of a sacred sexual nature and is intended for married couples only.
Reader discretion is advised.
This week we address the concern:
Sexual intercourse alone should be enough for any couple
to be happy sexually. Sex toys are not needed, unless someone is addicted to profane
erotica.
Sexual intercourse is not always sufficient, more
specifically for women, to achieve an orgasm.
Some studies have found that as few as 25% of women are able
to achieve orgasm strictly through intercourse and nothing else. In addition,
(depending on her arousal and sexual response) it can take from 20 minutes to
an hour for a woman to reach orgasm. There is nothing wrong with this. It requires
loving consideration and patience on the husband’s part in order to give this
loving gift to his wife.
However, (unless he is an athlete used to making hip thrust
movements with a consistent speed and rhythm continuously for 45 minutes) many
husbands may not have the physical stamina to keep up the physical movements
that long. Also, the average man reaches orgasm within 2-7 minutes, which is
not nearly enough time for women to be stimulated themselves.
Many sexual positions, including the popular missionary position,
often provide insufficient stimulation to the woman’s clitoris.
While varying positions can sometimes help with this, most
often women achieve more success with direct stimulation to the clitoris,
either manually or with a vibrator or other sexually stimulating implement.
The more often a husband has sex and the more satiated he
becomes over time, the longer it can also take him to have an orgasm. This can actually
be beneficial in helping his wife come to orgasm, but if she orgasms before he
does, then using a sex toy on him is also an option. However, when this
happens, I usually advise that this is a good indicator that his body is
telling him to take a break from sex for a day or two.
What about those who are elderly? Those who are disabled?
Those who do not as yet feel confident in their ability to stimulate their
spouse to an orgasm?
Are those couples unworthy of sexual pleasure in their
marriage? For a husband who’s uncertain of how his wife’s body works, using a
vibrator or another sex toy can greatly increase his self-confidence in the
bedroom, and make her satisfaction a much easier achievement. In addition, it’s
not only arousing for a husband, but also gives a tremendous boost to his ego
when he learns that he can give his wife that gift. It maintains its sanctity when
a married couple keeps these things between themselves.
For those who would prefer to avoid sex toys and want to try
manual stimulation techniques instead, there are some halfway-decent sources in
the world for learning this, although they often come with images or content
some may feel to be profane, depending on you or your spouse’s sensitivity. I
don’t post such sacred things in an open blog, but I do provide information
when asked for individually.
If you’d like more information on helpful techniques, please
feel free to send me an email at samzaragoza@sbcglobal.net,
or message me at my Facebook page, The Eternal Marriage Bed (Facebook The Eternal Marriage Bed). On MeWe " Eternal Marriage Bed" This is a private group. Those joining will at minimum be married but also be aware that this is a group addressing Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints doctrine, morals, standards and philosophy on marriage.
