The origin of the cultural concept of candles being a part of romance is very difficult to pin down, but it works!
Treat your lovely date to a special dinner she’ll never forget. Have the house set up when she arrives with candlelight, soft music and sparkling cider. Break out the games for the kids, put on a movie, or help them settle down to sleep for the night. You have to keep them nearby, but there is nothing wrong with distracting them for the next two hours.
Seat your sweet wife at the table made for two (tablecloth and silverware is mandatory) and serve her a full three-course meal made exclusively by you. Can't cook? Try some YouTube videos if you can follow directions, or go to the deli (but put the food on real plates). She'll appreciate your efforts, no matter what you do.
Lace the menu with delicious aphrodisiac ingredients if you can -- think oysters with a red wine vinegar dressing, crisp asparagus with a squeeze of lemon, a gooey chocolate dessert, and her favorite beverage -- and enjoy a decadent night together at home. Tonight, let it be about her. Make sure there are candles and when you serve, let them be the only lights.
Let her talk and unload what is weighing on her mind. This will allow her to channel her busy thoughts toward thoughts of you and the sexual part of her brain. For many women, the best aphrodisiac - is talking.
Later, you can move those candles to the bedroom.
Happy Dating!
