Ancient Biblical Sex Secret

 WARNING: This post contains a topic of a sacred sexual nature and is intended for married readers only. Those who are currently unmarried are advised to keep to the standards of the Church and refrain from reading the married sexual instruction that follows.


Been married awhile? Ever wish that you could feel that same sexual drive, passion and excitement you felt when you were single and a teenager? 

Hidden inside one of the Levitical laws in the Bible is one of God’s best kept secrets for keeping the sexual passion alive in your marriage.

This scripture can be found in the Old Testament and reads as follows:

 “And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her shall be unclean until the even.

 And every thing that she lieth upon in her separation shall be unclean: every thing also that she sitteth upon shall be unclean.

 And whosoever toucheth her bed shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even.

 And whosoever toucheth any thing that she sat upon shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even.

 And if it be on her bed, or on any thing whereon she sitteth, when he toucheth it, he shall be unclean until the even.

 And if any man lie with her at all, and her flowers be upon him, he shall be unclean seven days; and all the bed whereon he lieth shall be unclean. - Leviticus 15: 19-24

In my last blog on Sexual Extremes, I discussed briefly how some of the old sexual restrictions in marriage may not necessarily apply today because they didn’t have the sanitary conveniences that we have today. This ancient law is no different – and I mean that with no disrespect to my Jewish brethren. Even though we as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints no longer practice the Law of Moses, the spirit of that law still has principles that we can benefit from today.

As the scripture reads to me, the direction given here is that if a man has a wife and his wife is menstruating, he cannot touch her at all or anything she touches for seven days (or until her period has passed). If he does touch her, he must bathe and will be considered unclean until that evening. If he has sex with her while she is on her period, he will be unclean for seven days.

Here is the hidden secret.

If a couple refrains from physical touch for seven days, it gives their bodies a chance to rejuvenate and revitalize. The awareness that you both are not only not allowed to have sex for seven days, but not allowed to kiss or touch at all turns you into the kid who has to wait until Christmas morning to open even one present.

You can still talk to each other. It’s actually fun to tease and flirt with each other during this time, although it can make it harder to refrain from sex - as it's the forbidden that intensifies the desire.

You don’t have to go to the extreme of not touching anything she touches, but you must refrain from touching each other at all for the full seven days. Be warned…when the seven days are up, you may want to make sure you two are completely alone and the kids have a safe place to go.

This technique has the best chance of success if you are already in a reasonably healthy, loving marital relationship with good communication. If you or your spouse have additional psychological, physical, relationship or emotional challenges, I cannot guarantee this will work. Some anti-depressant drugs such as SSRIs can also interfere with libido. But, you are not restricted from trying.

As the prophet Alma said, experiment on my words. (Alma 32) Give it a try the next time your wife starts her period. If the wife is past menopause, then choose a date and refrain from physical touch for seven days. Make sure your spouse knows about it first, and agrees to experiment with you. For goodness sake, don’t just spring it on them. This is intended to help improve your marital relationship, not to create unnecessary friction.

If it works for your relationship, you may want to make it a regular monthly practice. There’s no need to schedule it; you already have a built-in alert. Try it, and watch the sparks fly.