If your spouse has a lower sex drive than you, that doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with them. You may just have a higher sex drive than they do and this is not uncommon or abnormal according to Dr. David Schnarch (author of Passionate Marriage)
If you are the one with the lower sex drive and it troubles you, you may want to take the following into consideration.
This slideshow from MedicineNet.com shows some possible causes of low libido or lack of interest in sex. Most female or male sexual dysfunction can be easily remedied as this slideshow will demonstrate.
Sex Drive Killers - By MedicineNet.Com
2 comments:
This slide show gives very good hints on how to improve our sex drive as it hits right on the nail. However, this is what we see at the top of the iceberg. Much effort has to be done with self by taking the problem at the root: commit to change and act upon it. The point is: Are we really ready to change things now, even if it takes some sacrifice to do it? Motivation is what is needed. How to get it, is another story...
This is probably as good a place as any to post this. You recently posted a link on facebook regarding borderline personality disorder (and I can't answer you anonymously there).
Having read the article, it felt rather filled with emotions, and not very objective. My biggest concern with the article is that it gives way for every man who is more or less sexually denied, to simply blame this on BPD, and say, well then there is no hope for us, and I might as well divorce her.
I have no doubt that BPD can be destructive where it is actually present (I have close family who was totally destroyed by having a mother with the diagnose), but don't you think diagnosing your spouse because of an online document you read (on a really poorly made website) is a little dangerous? My biggest fear is that men will use it as an excuse for stopping to try, and not improving oneself, believing that ones spouse is crazy anyway.
Finally, do you agree with the author in the article that there really is little or no hope for couples when one of them does have BPD?
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