In one of her shows, Ellen DeGeneres made fun of a couple who had saved their virginity and their first kiss for when they got married.
Yes it sucked, but whose first time doesn't - besides, they have all eternity to perfect it. Right? It should be a sacred thing for every married couple and no one has the right to judge you or even care how "good a kisser" you are except your spouse!
While learning to develop your marital intimacy skills in your marriage bed, kissing is definitely a vital one of them. Here is a video clip from Howcast with some good tips. how to kiss passionately
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I'm curious where you got your statistic that "for many women, when they think of sex, they think of kissing"? I've never heard any women I know say this.
Hi Jana,
Thank you for your question. This may be a misunderstanding of what I was trying to explain.
In this circumstance, I was speaking to husbands. Were I addressing wives I would have said "When women think of activities that arouse them to want sex, they usually think of kissing, cuddling, and talking romantically."
When men think of getting turned on, they don't think about kissing. They think about stroking genitals and penetrating their wife with their penis.
This is a fundamental difference between men and women in their communication styles when referring to sex or arousal.
The point I was trying to teach was that the men need to be aware of this difference when they attempt to arouse their wives to sex.
Also, when I said that statement about kissing, it was not from any one statistic. It was based on a group of research.
I hope this helps answer your question. Please let me know if it doesn't.
For more complete documentation on this point, please refer to my articles "My Porn is Okay, Your Porn Is Not Okay - Avoiding The Double Standard" and "Conquering Gender Prejudice In Marriage: Avoiding the Double Standard Part III"
Kissing is great and very important. And, I find it's most enjoyable when you have positive feelings about your partner in general.
It's good to do this for at least several seconds.
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