How Close Is Our Relationship? - A Quiz

How Close Is Our Relationship?

By: Gottman and Silver (1999,81-82)

Put a T (true) or F (False) next to each of the following. At the end, add up the total of each.

1. We enjoy doing small things together, like folding laundry or watching TV. 
2.   I look forward to spending my free time with my (spouse). 
3.   At the end of the day, my (spouse) is glad to see me. 
4.  My (spouse) is usually interested in hearing my views. 
5.   I really enjoy discussing things with my (spouse). 
6.   My (spouse)is one of my best friends. 
7.  I think my (spouse) would consider me a very close friend. 
8.  We love talking to each other. 
9.  When we go out together, the time goes very quickly. 
10.  We always have a lot to say to each other. 
11.  We have a lot of fun together. 
12.  We are spiritually very compatible. 
13.  We tend to share the same basic values. 
14.  We tend to spend time together in similar ways. 
15.  We have a lot of common interests. 
16.  We have many of the same dreams and goals. 
17.  We like to do a lot of the same things.
18. Even though our interest are somewhat different, I enjoy my (spouse’s) interests. 
19.  Whatever we do together, we usually tend to have a good time. 
20.  My (spouse) tells me when he or she has had a bad day.

If you score 10 or more, your marriage is strong. If you get a total less than ten, your marriage could use some development.[1]

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[1] Benokraitis, Nijole, Marriages and Families, 5^th Ed., (2005,272)