Answer: Cultural Myth
A wet dream is otherwise known in clinical terms as ‘nocturnal
emissions’.
A man will have on average about five erections while they
sleep at night. These happen during REM state, which is a deeper state of sleep.
During this time, a person is normally not conscious of their surroundings. It
is also during that state of sleep when a nocturnal emission would most likely occur.
A man’s testicles are an organic factory for creating
millions of sperm. The life span of sperm is about 100 days.[i]
Once the sperm have reached maturity in the testes, they await to be released
through ejaculation. If a husband’s
sperm are not released through conscious means (such as sexual intercourse with
his wife), after a period of time the body’s autonomic system will naturally evacuate
these sperm to make way for new sperm or else absorb them back into the body.[ii]
This is what happens when wet dreams occur.
Wet dreams are not harmful physically, mentally or
spiritually. They are not any more harmful than the function of your bladder
filling with urine. In addition, men can have nocturnal emissions all through
their lives, though it’s most likely to happen during puberty.
Is a wet dream then a sin before God, like masturbating to
profane erotica?
In the Gospel Principles handbook, it says,
“…Sometimes we sin because of ignorance, sometimes because of our weaknesses, and sometimes because of willful disobedience…What is sin? James said, “To him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin” (James 4:17). John described sin as “all unrighteousness” (1 John 5:17) and “the transgression of the law” (1 John 5:17)”[iii]
According to these definitions, it suggests that we sin by
making a conscious decision to do something that transgresses the laws of God,
such as having sex outside of marriage. Whether or not we’ve been taught the
law of chastity, taking the action still leads to consequences, but we are
conscious and taking action.
By this definition, it would be impossible for a nocturnal emission
to be a sin against God, because the man is not able to consciously take action.
Even if there is a sexual dream in association when the wet
dream takes place, no sin has been committed. Again, we would have to knowingly
entertain those thoughts for them to enter into the realm of sin, and have the
ability to make the conscious decision to change the mental subject.
In REM state, we are in a subconscious condition. We are not
conscious enough of reality to make the decision that we are having an unwanted
thought and then take steps to mentally change the subject. [iv] REM state is also necessary for our overall
mental health.
In the gospel library at www.lds.org,
it gives this explanation of how the Church acknowledges wet dreams:
” In the boy, millions of sperm grow in the testicles within spermatic fluid. When the fluid and sperm fill the tubules and testes, they are automatically released or ejaculated. This usually happens during sleep and is called nocturnal emissions or “wet dreams.” Sexual dreams are not always present, but they can trigger a nocturnal emission or ejaculation. In either case this is not masturbation.”[v]
If any of you are concerned that you or your spouse or child
are sinning by having a wet dream, I hope you will take comfort in knowing that
our natural bodily functions are part of God’s plan. I believe that in no way does
a boy or man fall out of favor with the Lord through this biological
transaction.
[ii] Healthline: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/wet-dreams : The Naked Scientists: https://www.thenakedscientists.com/articles/questions/what-happens-sperm-isnt-ejaculated
[iii]
Gospel Principles, Chapter 19, Repentance, pg. 197, Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-Day Saints, 2009, emphasis added
[iv]
For more information on REM state, you can visit this site: http://alleydog.com/topics/consciousness_sleep.php
2 comments:
Certainly there is no sin in a wet dream the way you have described it. However, I remember feeling troubled as a youth on those many occasions when I would experience a gray area. That is, I would often wake up just as the orgasm that the wet dream caused was beginning. I suppose I could have trained myself to immediately get up, but instead would either do nothing, or move my body against my bed in order to enhance an orgasm that was happening anyway. Blame it on that groggy, half awake/half asleep state! As a youth, I would always feel guilty, like I have sinned. Now, I am not so sure. What I do know is that this gray area is somewhere between private, solo masturbation (which is sin but in my opinion not a serious sin) and an unconscious experience. Probably a sin, but nothing to worry too much about.
Good insight. Do men/boys ALWAYS have wet dreams? I don't think I ever have had one, in spite of quite long periods of no sex or masturbation.
Also--Anon April 10 brings up a good point. Sometimes our efforts to say wet dreams are fine, but masturbation is an evil sin "next to murder," ignores the realities of biology and the truth of what really matters to God.
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